Here are the Best Conversation Topics on a Date

When guys first meet a woman or go out on a date with her, they often worry about running out of topics and experiencing long and embarrassing silences that would end up boring the other person.

First of all, it’s important to realize that a woman will probably be as anxious about that first date as you and that she will also try to come up with new topics to avoid that the interaction has too many dead moments. Also, silence is not always bad. Having small pauses during a conversation can help the two of you relax for a while and simply enjoy the moment together.

That said, it’s helpful to have a list of topics you can discuss already prepared before meeting a woman for a date. Just in case those silences become too long, and the date risks becoming uninteresting. So, let’s now dig into the best conversation topics on a date.

“Well, How Was Your Week?”

This is a very simple question and yet it is very effective because it allows to create a feeling of familiarity right from the start of the conversation.

Also, it will immediately give you insights about important aspects of her life without asking too many direct questions. You’ll probably learn about what she does for a living, as well as some of her extra-work activities or going-out habits. You can use her answer to build the conversation further and zoom in on specific aspects. For example, she may reply “It was very stressful at work, but I also had a great yoga class yesterday”.

This allows you to use her answer to ask her about her passion for yoga, how long she has been practicing it, what it is that she likes the most about it, and so on. Building familiarity should be one of the first goals of a first date because it takes you away from a stage of the relationship where you two are “strangers who just met” and creates the conditions for building a deeper connection.

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Trips, Excursions, and Outdoor Experiences

This is a topic that helps people connect very easily because it allows them to share past experiences that involved a lot of positive emotions and memories.

Asking a woman “So, what was the greatest trip you ever had?” is a much more original and thought-provoking question than the usual “What do you do for a living?” By evoking a moment in her life in which she was feeling very happy and thrilled, you’ll end up being associated with those emotions, which is perfect for a man who is trying to make a woman feel good about and around him.

You can then ask many “sub-questions” like “So, how was the local cuisine? Did you enjoy it?” or “What sites would you recommend to a person who has never been there?” Asking sub-questions allows you to turn one topic into several other topics, thus multiplying the number of things you can discuss during the first date.

This topic applies to future travel plans as well. Ask her about a place where would like to travel and where she has never been before or what travel plans she has for the next summer. You can also ask her about shorter trips, like one-day excursions out of town or to natural areas.

You can learn a lot about a person by listening to her while she talks about her travel experiences. Use her answers to understand what type of person she is, what makes her excited, what she dislikes, and so on.

Food, Restaurants, and Cooking

This is another topic that generates a lot of positive feelings because it’s associated with one of the simplest and yet greatest of pleasures in life: tasting and enjoying food. You could ask her what’s her favorite dish or whether she likes a certain cuisine.

The conversation could also revolve around cooking as a hobby. Most women tend to appreciate men who have good cooking skills because they associate these guys with the ability to “make her enjoy things”, which is one of the things women look for in a dating partner.

Tell her about some unusual recipe you really like to cook and that your friends really enjoy. Cooking is also a great reason for inviting a woman to your place after the date when you are finally ready to move things a bit further.

Similar conversation topics are restaurants, their specialties, and what experiences you had in various dining locations.    This is very similar to the topic of traveling as it involves chatting about past experiences you had in different places and giving each other suggestions. You can also use this conversation to propose a dining location to meet for your next date.

Movies, Music, and Books

This topic is very broad and gives you multiple conversation opportunities. Instead of the usual question “What’s your favorite movie?” you could ask something like “Seen any good movie lately?” or “Are you reading something interesting at the moment?” In our days, very few people don’t watch movies, don’t read books, and don’t listen to music so it’s very difficult to run out of things to talk about in this field.

Try to display your emotions towards a certain movie or song instead of simply giving a logical opinion. Women tend to like men who are passionate about things and do not approach any conversation from an exclusively rational standpoint.

Some men are afraid to deviate from the rational path or think that this will make them look as less masculine. But in reality, this is only limiting their success in dating because women really enjoy a connection to your emotional side. This topic also allows you to understand more about her. You can tell a lot about a person from the type of movies, songs, and books she enjoys.

Is she a big romantic person who enjoys classic love stories? Is she more of an investigative type who likes mystery and psychological thrillers? Or is she a person that likes to laugh a lot and watch many funny movies? Based on the information you get from the conversation, you can also set the tone of your interaction with her.

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Positive Childhood Memories

Few people think of this topic when they’re out on a date with a girl for the first time, but most people really enjoy reminiscing the nicest and most memorable events of their childhood. This usually evokes a feeling of warmth and happiness, which is a very good emotion to inspire in a woman when you are out on a date with her.

You can also tease her a little and make some innocent jokes about events that are particularly funny, as well as allow her to do the same thing with you. This builds intimacy and makes her perceive that you guys are close, which in turn lowers the barriers and allows the interaction to progress.

You can ask her “what’s the funniest memory of your childhood?” or “which age of your childhood would you relive again if you could?” These questions are at the same time personal but not taboo, which allows you to build a connection without being inappropriate or coming across as prying and disrespectful.

Life Philosophy and Mindset

This conversation topic is a bit deeper, but it can also help build intimacy and give her the feeling that you are really getting to know each other. You can ask her about her approach and attitude towards life in general.

Is she a very organized person that always follows a routine? Is she an idealist or is she a pragmatist? Is she a more relaxed person that tends to go with the flow? How much time does she prefer spending with others compared to the time she spends alone? These are all questions that can help you understand a woman at a deeper level and understand what type of role you can have in her life.

Some men are afraid to ask these types of questions because they feel it could come across as invasive and rude. Actually, women like to have a fulfilling conversation about those things, as long as you’re asking questions with the right tone and in the right way. It should not feel like an interrogation but more like an exchange of views on you two manage your lives and what works the best for you. It shouldn’t feel judgmental at all and should be aimed at getting to know each other better.

Hobbies, Sports, and Other Recreational Activities

Another great topic to keep the conversation entertaining and knowing more about the other person. Questions like: “Are you the sports type?” or “So, what about your hobbies?” or “What do you like to do the most in your free time?” are always a safe way to keep a conversation interesting.

It’s important that you don’t just go through the motions of asking all the usual questions while faking interest. Try to really listen to what she is saying and develop a genuine interest in her life. Women can often tell the difference between a guy who’s just reciting a screenplay and a guy who really wants to know more about her.

You don’t really have to share the same type of passions and interests in life, but you can still appreciate her drive towards certain activities and the fact that they add positive energy and moments to her life. If you find a hobby or other activity that you share, this can be a great opportunity to bond ever more by sharing insights and giving tips to each other.

Life Ambitions, Goals, and Plans

This doesn’t have to be a conversation entirely focused on her job but more of a broader interaction on where she sees herself in the future and how she intends to get there. You can ask her questions like: “So, where do you see yourself 10 years more from now?” or “What’s the greatest thing you would like to accomplish in life?” This topic can develop in a number of different directions depending on what type of answers she gives you.

If she tells you that she would like to start a family and be a mom, the conversation could focus on family, parenting, kids, and so on. If she says that she is simply looking for happiness, in whichever form this may come, then you can discuss how she imagines a happy life to be.

You can also talk about yourself and your goals but try to keep around 70% of the focus on her. Many men make the mistake of talking too much about themselves during a date to impress the woman they’re out with. The reality is that women appreciate much more a man who knows how to listen and give them the chance to express themselves.

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Hypothetical Scenarios

This is a little game that stimulates people’s imagination and provides a good excuse to start interesting conversations. You can ask her a question like “What would you do if you had enough money to stop working for the rest of your life?” or “If you could snap your fingers and change one thing in your life, would you change?” In addition, to be entertaining and thought-provoking, this topic can help you understand more about what type of person she is and what are her dreams, priorities, and preferences in life.

You can also turn this game into a two-person scenario. “So let’s say we get out of this bar and we find ourselves in Brazil? Where’s the first place we go to and what’s the first thing we do?” This helps her imagine situations in which the two of you are together and improves the feeling of closeness and connection that makes a first date successful.

A lot of men miss this point and think of the first date as just a “mandatory step” before they get physical with a girl. Instead, what most women are looking for initially is meeting somebody they feel connected to and feel comfortable sharing things they wouldn’t normally share with others.

Intimacy follows this feeling and it’s very difficult for a woman to escalate physically unless there has been some rapport building before.